Get Frisky: A Galentine’s Guide to Turning Yourself On
by Trish Mock, founder of Good Psyche & Steph Elias, founder of Personal Fav
Galentine’s Day is your reminder that you are allowed your desires, to feel good in your body, to make “spark” a priority, even when life is loud, frenzied, or generally stressful as it all too often is.
This Galentine’s Day, we wanted to bring you the best ways to curate your setting to get in the mood, and light your after-dark life on fire. From nervous system hacks to designing your space, explore the little rituals that actually work.
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Trish & Steph
Hey gals, I’m Trish, founder of Good Psyche, and here are my BEST life hacks for libidomaxxing.
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ᥫ᭡. Make your body feel safe first
If your brain is sprinting through to-dos, worries, and anxious thoughts, your body usually is hard-pressed to get in tune with such a “secondary” need as physical pleasure. Start with some nervous system regulation. Two minutes counts.
Try one, or all:
Hot shower, slow pace, no phone. BONUS: turn the lights off and shower in the dark to feel into your other senses
Legs up the wall for 3 minutes. If nothing else it’s a good warm up for being on your back.
Heating pad on your belly or lower back. Bringing warmth to the pelvic area creates a precursory physical comfort to prepare you for pleasure.
If you’re playing with a partner, take a little time to put that toy to work before your partner joins you.
The goal is to get out of “go mode,” or if you prefer “your masculine”, and feel into your divine feminine.
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ᥫ᭡. Build anticipation earlier in the day
Desire comes easier when it has time to build.
Ideas that feel subtle and grown:
A text that sets a tone.
A playlist you only use for getting in the mood.
Fresh sheets, a candle, a robe, a rinse-off shower or a full girl shower.
Apply a little lip liner and a gloss. There’s something about having the perfect pout before play that feels incredibly feminine and desirable.
Anticipation is the ramp. Hell, start building yours during the workday, it’s a great way to make the time pass faster.
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ᥫ᭡. Go digital-free
After sending that last spicy test, put your phone away. It’s time to find dopamine in a different kind of way.
Grab a book and read something steamy. One could argue that smut reading is single-handedly saving bored housewives!
Use your other senses. Curate your space. Soft lighting, sensual textiles, comfy pillows. Allow your body to take it all in and sink into relaxation.
Scent is one of the fastest ways to shift your mental state. Pick one perfume, body oil, or candle that you only use for your intimate times.
Over time, your body learns the association. It becomes a switch you can reach for when you want to feel more open.
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ᥫ᭡.Support the vibe with plant allies you actually like
Mood, stress, sleep, and the things you ingest have an enormous impact on your libido. If your system is depleted or out of balance, it can throw off your ability to feel that internal spark.
Some of my favorite plants for supporting libido and the energy of desire:
- Kanna for mood support and ease
- Blue Lotus for a dreamy, relaxed, sensual vibe
- Damiana for traditional libido support
- Maca for vitality and stamina
- Shilajit for energy, testosterone, and cognitive performance
- Horny Goat Weed for aphrodisia and enhanced physiological response to stimulation
Start low, pay attention and stay on the lookout for any unwanted side effects, and choose what feels good in your body. And of course, consult your doctor before taking anything new.
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Accepting and EMBRACING what turns you on is a practice in self-love, compassion, and non-judgement.
ᥫ᭡. Make pleasure a practice, even when you are solo
Knowing what turns you on doesn’t always come easily - but we all have our freak! Knowing what makes you tick comes from practice, exposure to various stimuli, and paying attention to how you naturally react. Accepting and EMBRACING what turns you on is a practice in self-love, compassion, and non-judgement.
A few low-effort ways to build that connection:
Touch-based body scan in the shower, or anywhere, just probably not in public.
Lotion ritual with slow pressure and deep breaths
Use a libido-stimulating ear seed protocol
At least ten minutes of “I’m allowed to feel good” time everyday. This can be listening to a couple of your favorite sensual songs, snacking on a sensual food, lying down eyes closed and cupping your hand over your kitty just to make her warm.
Your desire responds to repetition. Your body learns what to expect.
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A Galentine’s note from me
In the spirit of womanhood and all of us tapping into our divine feminine energy, my wish for you is to make a practice of curating the environment inside and outside of your body that allows your libido to thrive.
Keep reading for more spicy tips from Steph!
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Stephanie from Personal Fav clocking in here at the frisky factory to build on some of the amazing suggestions from Trish. I am going to dive into intentionality as an addition to your pleasure practice.
Be Intentional With Your Pleasure
In a culture obsessed with optimization, productivity, and performance, pleasure is often treated as either a reward or a guilty indulgence. We “earn” it after a long week.
Real pleasure isn't a bonus feature of a well-lived life. It's an input to a life well-lived.
To be intentional with your pleasure is to reject autopilot gratification and instead cultivate experiences that nourish, awaken, and sustain you. It is the difference between numbing out and lighting up.
Here’s how to begin
ᥫ᭡. Distinguish Between Relief and Pleasure
Not all good feelings are created equal.
Relief is the sensation of pressure removed: the drink after a hard day, the scroll after a stressful meeting, the sugar hit when you’re depleted. Relief has its place—but it is often reactive and short-lived.
Intentional pleasure, on the other hand, expands you. It leaves you feeling more alive, not less. It sharpens your senses rather than dulling them.
Start asking:
Does this experience energize me or sedate me?
Do I feel more present afterward—or more checked out?
Awareness alone begins to shift your choices.
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When you give pleasure your full attention, it multiplies.
ᥫ᭡. Slow Down the Experience
Pleasure deepens with attention.
The problem is not that we lack pleasurable experiences; it’s that we rush through them. We drink coffee while answering emails. We eat while scrolling. We listen to music while thinking about something else.
Try this instead: choose one pleasurable ritual a day and remove multitasking from it entirely.
Sip slowly. Taste fully. Feel the warmth of water in the shower. Notice the texture of fabric against your skin. Listen to a song without doing anything else.
When you give pleasure your full attention, it multiplies.
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ᥫ᭡. Curate Your Inputs
Pleasure is shaped by what you consume—food, media, environments, relationships.
Be discerning. Not everything stimulating is nourishing.
Ask yourself:
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What spaces make me feel expansive?
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What conversations leave me energized?
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What art, music, or movement awakens something in me?
Intentional pleasure is curated. It requires editing. It may mean fewer but richer experiences.
Quality over quantity is not just a productivity mantra—it’s a pleasure principle.
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ᥫ᭡. Schedule Joy Without Over-Scripting It
Spontaneity is beautiful, but in busy lives, what doesn’t get scheduled often gets sacrificed.
Block time for experiences that delight you—creative work, movement, long meals, unhurried intimacy, nature walks. Treat them as commitments, not luxuries.
But leave room for presence within them. Intention is not rigidity. It’s about protecting space, not controlling the outcome.
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ᥫ᭡. Reclaim Your Senses
Modern life flattens sensory experience. Screens dominate sight and sound; taste is engineered for intensity rather than nuance; touch is often neglected outside of necessity.
To be intentional with pleasure is to resensitize yourself.
Walk barefoot on grass. Light a candle. Take a slower breath. Engage in touch—whether through massage, holding hands, or simply placing a hand on your own chest.
The senses are gateways to embodied joy.
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ᥫ᭡. Let Pleasure Inform Your Values
What you consistently enjoy reveals something about who you are.
Perhaps you feel most alive in deep conversation. Or in quiet solitude. Or while building something tangible. Or dancing in a crowded room.
Instead of dismissing these as hobbies, treat them as data.
Pleasure is feedback. It tells you what matters.
When you align your time, relationships, and work with the forms of pleasure that genuinely resonate, life feels less like something to manage and more like something to inhabit.
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ᥫ᭡. Release the Guilt
Many of us were taught that pleasure must be justified. That seriousness equals virtue. That joy is frivolous.
But pleasure is not the opposite of responsibility. It's what makes responsibility sustainable.
When approached with intention, pleasure restores attention, creativity, empathy, and resilience. It reminds you that being alive is not just about output.
You are allowed to enjoy your life; not someday, not when everything is finished, but now.
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To be intentional with your pleasure is to ask, again and again: What actually makes me feel alive?
Not what distracts you. Not what impresses others. Not what fills time.
What enlivens you.
Follow that with curiosity. Protect it with boundaries. Deepen it with attention.
Pleasure, when chosen deliberately, becomes less of an escape and more of a practice—a quiet, radical commitment to inhabiting your own life fully.
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